This is just me, but the most success in getting a Y-pipe to seal correctly is to make sure the sealing surface of the Y-pipe is perfectly flat. In the past I've seen too many Y-pipes warp and end up leaking in spite of using new gaskets during installation.
I realize this is a new pipe, but it's easy to check with a flat surface and a set of feeler gauges.
To answer your question, I would use an oem gasket, put the gasket in dry, and torque the bolts to spec.
Follow the oem torque sequence also.
Give me awhile and I will look up torque specs and sequence.